Family Mediation is a service that helps parents and other family members to resolve differences and reach agreement after separation. You can arrange an intake interview with your local family mediation service by contacting them – use this link to find your local service.  Following your intake interview the service can invite your ex-partner to attend an intake meeting but cannot insist on attendance.  After intake interviews have been completed the mediation can take place if both parents agree.  When you contact the service in your area you will be advised whether they ask for a suggested donation or if they have a set charge. See this note about choosing a mediator.   Lawyer mediation is also available, ask your lawyer or see the CALM Scotland site.